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…and join FetLife if you haven’t already!  I’m on there!  Can you find me?

…In the end, I was rewarded with the pleasure of licking cum off of his boots.    Yum!

Leather Pride Corset from www.hourglasscorsetry.com

Yay! Tomorrow is San Francisco’s Folsom Street Fair, the world’s largest leather event, and probably my favorite day of the year. Yes, better than Christmas and better than my birthday. On this day, kinksters of all ages, genders, and sexual orientations come out of the dungeons and proudly strut their stuff on the streets, celebrating their lifestyles– and the Mayor of the city actually welcomes us!

As I type this I’m getting giddy! If you’re lucky enough to be here tomorrow, ENJOY the day!!

So at first I was unsure that I could have fulfilling scenes without play that leaves marks, but I was mistaken.   All it takes is some creativity…

Last week, a play partner and I did some chemical play, knife play, nipple torture, cage play, humiliation, electrical play… and oh, my favorite- mind fucking! And no marks!

First, I learned of Tiger Balm. It’s sort of similar to icy-hot, but has a lovely cinnamon smell (like red hots!) and when placed in sensitive areas such as inner thighs and nipples, it produces a warming sensation and then burning, oh the burning! What’s worse, water and sweat enhances the burn. And wow is it a killer when combined with nipple clamps! Even brought me to tears.

I also love cages, and I got to spend some quality time in a vertical standing, swinging chain cage.  I was mostly naked, vulnerable, and on display for a crowd. But oh, how I love cages!

Not the one I was in-- but this is a yummy cage!

And then there’s the fun of electrical play.   I think the anticipation of the shock is often the worst part.  (Especially when your play partner mind fucks you into thinking he’s never used a cattle prod before!).   We even brought the fun outdoors for Labor Day picnic-ing and played with a dog’s shock collar!  Who says picnics in the park can’t be kinky?!

So all in all, this was a fun venture!   But don’t get me wrong… I am still looking forward to a good beating as soon as possible!

Since I’ve been back,  I even found a new toy that I have a love/hate relationship with- I love the impact of the thud, but it’s really mean.   This toy packs a punch that you can feel move straight through you!    It’s a nasty lil rubber paddle made from a half inch of solid rubber.

yum!

I even had a “welcome back” slice of pizza with my favorite topping…   yum!

Some of my favorite toys came from kitchen stores, dollar stores, and hardware stores.  I have 5 metal guitar finger pics that I picked up for cheap at Guitar Center and sharpened.

One nasty implement I’ve formed a love/hate relationship with is a stainless steel spatula covered in silicone- found at Ikea for 97 cents.    

I’ve also incorporated items like coat hangers, wooden spoons, hair brushes, plastic hair clips, and clothes pins into play.  All of which you can get very cheaply at a dollar store.  Items such as rope, chain, clamps, carabiners are always handy and found at any hardware store.

Now, walking through such stores with my play partner has become a form of foreplay for me!

…And as always, vivd imaginations and really good mind-fucks are enjoyable, much appreciated by a sub, and completely free!

my current favorite shoe

But I’m only 5’1″ and I can use all the height I can get.

The high heel is actually quite complex in it’s context in society and psychology.  The high heel symbolizes femininity, but also male dominance and a desire to please men.  The heel can also be looked at as a form of female dominance- especially if worn by a Mistress.  The high heel has even been referred to as a phallic symbol.  And it could certainly be used as a weapon of pain (ever have someone wearing heels step on your foot? or on your chest, or your balls, for that matter?).

Some women say that high heels gives them a sense of empowerment, gives them authority, or makes them feel sexier… but let’s face it, wearing high heels actually puts you at a disadvantage (at the very least, it’s quite difficult to run after anyone!)

For me, I believe wearing high heels is a form of personal torture.  I will endure the pain of wearing 5″ heels over the course of a long fetish event, especially if I’m with an appreciative Dom.  And at the end of the night, I may just give in to that person with a foot fetish who is dying to give me a massage

Here’s an interesting article on “Why are high heels so enticing?” and another article High Heels:  4 Inches Closer to Heaven

You could say I have a bit of a preoccupation with religious paraphernalia.

What makes these toys even more perfect,  (or even “more wrong”),  is that I’m a preacher’s kid.   [So yes, the stories about minister's daughters being "wild", in this case, are true!].

And what I love almost more than cum, is cum on food! A majority of the people I’ve told this to, think it’s just gross. But I have had some partners that have reveled in my fetish, and have had fun with it.  Including the breakfast of champions:  cum on toast, or going into a side alley to top off a fresh hot slice of pizza, and even incorporating it into food sex.

I just came upon a book called, “Natural Harvest:  A Collection of Semen Based Recipes”

You can find it here:  http://www.cookingwithcum.com/

Some of the recipes sound delicious, including chocolate truffles with a white creamy center and even one for a Smoothie.

It gives a whole new meaning to “creampie”.